So ’ve been struggling with some of the more psychological aspects of weight loss. I know I can’t be the only one to have these issues and I wanted to see if anyone here has experience or advice for some of this stuff. Obviously everyone is different but I’m hoping the themes of self acceptance/self loathing, relearning body image, unlearning years of bad mental habits and the like are a bit more universal than it seems when I try to find books and resources.
A bit of background: 27M. Weighed an estimated 475 (it was probably more) Jan 2013. Over the past three years I’ve lost a touch over 200lbs, down to 273. Workout about 5-6 days a week. During much of that time I fueled my workouts and diets through a steady diet of self loathing and other what i realize now realize to be damaging mental habits.
I’ve had a lot of wins and losses but recently I’ve had a really rough time with it all. Every milestone I set for myself just sort of becomes hollow as soon as I reach it and I find myself pushing more and more and what used to be a dream is just an empty benchmark that I can’t fall back to. On the personal side of things I had a crush on a friend for sometime and it actually started to go somewhere and when it came to a head of dating or not it fizzled out and I know that in part it's my weight (and embarrassingly my lack of experience with women that went hand in hand with my size). I know there’s a million reasons for this but this only added to my self loathing and struggle with the aforementioned issues.
It’s gotten to a point that when people ask me how much I’ve lost I honestly get embarrassed about it. Even though I work my ass off everyday to have come this far, I hate to have to admit how much I lost because the person I was was so disgusting to me and the idea of people imagining 200lbs of weight loss is disgusting to them.
I’ve tried some body image acceptance books but they sometimes miss the mark. Would appreciate any stories, advice, resources etc that people may have on this subject
TLDR: Need advice for struggling with psychology of weight loss.
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